“Marriage hath in it less of beauty but more of safety, than the single life; it hath more care, but less danger, it is more merry, and more sad; it is fuller of sorrows, and fuller of joys; it lies under more burdens, but it is supported by all the strengths of love and charity, and those burdens are delightful.”_Bishop Jeremy Taylor

I was watching a movie titled “Forces of Nature” that just blew me away with its ending. The movie is about a couple that are about to get married, and last minute fears invade the groom. Many things took place but at the end, he follows his trust and feelings…and yes ! they get married.

This movie made me think and stop for a reflection. And I just can’t believe how sometimes things happen right at the correct moments. Why am I saying this ?! Because it happened that my husband and I were asked to talk about our marriage experience in sessions given to couples that are about to get married. These sessions are supposed to strengthen and help the couple get ready to a new life. From single life to a couple’s life.
My husband and I have been married for 2 years and a half now, and we also took these sessions before our marriage. Maybe some might think that it’s not such a long time, and 2 years don’t entitle us to give ‘a marriage experience’, but I believe we’ve been chosen for a reason. I honestly don’t know the real reason; but I believe the intuition of Father Elie Qanbar was right in its place; it gave my husband and I, a chance to sit down and discuss our life together. During the weekend, on Sunday morning, we were preparing kind of a plan to follow during the session that we will be giving; and today, Tuesday, it happened by chance that this movie was played on TV. The ending really aroused the feeling of writing in me. Not only have I felt like writing and sharing, it also fed me with power to share as much as I can.

Before I headed to my inactive blog, I wrote to my husband the following, which I really felt like sharing with everyone else:

We’ve got lots of feelings, some are confusing, some are so real and strong, some make us hesitant, and some just get us on our feet strong and confident. But the important thing is that we should trust these feelings. Through marriage, we find safety in our relationship, we pass through sadness and sorrow, happiness and joy; and we are grateful that we are together in all these stages of our life. Safety is such a nice feeling. Feeling safe brings in the comfort in our relationship. When struggles hit us, we find peace the moment we turn to each other, and thus find comfort. This is what makes us stronger and drive our love to each other grow even more.
If asked about ‘love’, how did you know that you love him? What made you love him?
I seriously can’t find the suitable words, it is such a wide thing to talk about. It is every moment and every single thing that we do together and each one alone but reflects on our relationship. Love is in everything we do and say. I am trying not to be poetic here; but this is how I truly found out that I am in love. Because I love him, that’s why I married him. I cherish our marriage and I am really grateful to God for having him put each one of us in the path of the other.
I love you,
my husband,
my partner
and my best friend.

 

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